Words Have Power

October 16th, 2013 @   -  2 Comments

Have you experienced one of the following situations?

You come to work full of enthusiasm and energy, but after hearing various negative comments from a colleague, you feel completely drained. Your colleague’s comments sap your energy and bring your mood down.

During a conversation with you, someone talked badly about someone else; your views about that person change as a result.  You might have had a good opinion of that person, but what you heard distorted that picture.

You felt stuck and hopeless, but after hearing words of support and encouragement from a family member or a friend, you felt like you could take on the world.

Words can make a big difference. They have power. Are you aware of the power of your words? Your words can provide the encouragement to do great things or they can bring on despair and discouragement. Your words can build and strengthen relationships or they can tear them down. Ask yourself, how am I using this power? Do your words boost and lift people up or do they tear them down?  Do your words destroy or inspire? The power of your words lies in your choice of words as well as the way you convey them. How are your words affecting others?

Unfortunately, many people are unaware of the power of words. They let their opinions and judgements trip off their tongues without considering their impact.

Because words have power, you need to think and use the right words.

Refrain from Gossip – Turn away from ill speech

You may say, “I am surrounded with gossip. What can I do?” You can avoid it, by changing the subject, keeping silent or walking away. You can also say something positive about the person who is the subject of the gossip. Nobody rises up by putting others down.

Sometimes we are unintentionally the source of gossip. How often do we complain to the wrong person who cannot do anything about an issue? When we are at home we complain to our spouse about our boss or a colleague at work. When we are at work we complain about our spouse or our kids at home. Rather than expressing our concerns to the person directly, we tell others. What is the result? Everybody talks and knows about the issue but the one concerned. If you can’t tell the person directly, you shouldn’t tell others either. It is easy and sometimes entertaining to gossip, to complain and criticise everyone and everything, but where does that get you?

Be slow to criticise and quick to appreciate

Have you wondered why we are quick to criticize but slow to appreciate and praise? Why we tend to be more generous with our criticism than our praise? Why we are quick to point out what is wrong but subdued when it comes to recognizing what is right?

I know many parents who believe that part of caring for and loving their children is to discipline them through spanking and criticism. Saying something affectionate, complimentary or encouraging makes them feel uncomfortable. What type of individuals do they produce?

Say what is best to every person you interact with

When Allah the Almighty sent Musa (AS) to Pharaoh, a brutal dictator, He instructed him to speak gently. Similarly, when the companions addressed the idolaters, they chose their words carefully saying, “You will not be asked about our sins, nor shall we be asked of what you do.” (Quran 34:25) Why didn’t they say it the other way around? The answer is in the Quran, Allah says: “…if you had been rude (in speech) and harsh in heart, they would have broken away from about you…” (Quran 3:159). A kind word is charity, costs nothing and does wonders.

Before you speak ask yourself, is what I am about to say going to make things better or worse? What is the purpose of it? Will it inspire, add value, solve a problem, motivate..? If not, silence is your best option.

When you speak follow the advice of Rumi “Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.”

Are we held accountable for what we say? Absolutely! The Prophet (PBUH) was asked this question by one of the companions. His answer was “…Is there anything which drags people into Fire on their faces other than the harvest of their tongues?” (Al- Tirmidhi)  The Almighty says, “Man does not utter any word except that with him is an observer prepared [to record].” (Quran 50:18)

Think and use the right words because  “when you speak the word, it reigns over you. When it is unspoken you reign over it.”

 

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2 Comments → “Words Have Power”


  1. yaquine

    3 years ago

    Thanks. At work, i am considered as an alien because i don’t gossip, my colleages prefer not to talk to me. I try to draw their attention to other subjects but in vain, they prefer gossiping each other all the day, talking about mariage and relations between man and women( sorry to say that, but really those are the only subjects they talk about)
    I am really thinking about changing my work, but it is not easy to find a new job.
    Kindly give me some advises how to deal with them?
    Jazakaallaho kola kheir

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  2. yaquine

    3 years ago

    Salamaleikom, really words have power, i was really decieved when i didn’t have an answer from your part but anyway your posts were very useful and my experience in my new job was very useful, i brought lot of changes to the company, i had a nice impact on my colleages, really we can have an impact on others if we are determined and have good intentions. who see the company i am working in now will not believe how it was before few months.
    We have to believe in what we say, to be honest with our selves and to be honest with others.

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